Tuesday’s Featured Blog: Little Bites of Heaven

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This week’s featured blogger is one of my favorite bloggers for so many reasons. Back when I was pregnant with triplets and had no idea what a blog was, I stumbled upon Little Bites of Heaven, and was immediately intrigued by this family that had triplets and a singleton. Rachael is the proud mommy to Lydia, age 13, and James, Ella, and Cameron, 21 month old BGG triplets. At a time when I was extremely anxious (to put it mildly) about how I was going to handle three babies, it was so helpful to read about how another family survived those early months with multiples, as well as another child. It made me think maybe, just maybe, I could do it too. Rachael’s writing is creative and insightful, and her developing photography skills will make you want to go out and buy a new camera. And, I must not forget to mention, her kids are ridiculously cute. Whether you have multiples or not, you will love this blog. Trust me. This week I wanted to help you all to get to know Rachael a little better, so that maybe you can benefit from her insight as much I did.

R: First of all, I just want to say thank you for all of your kind words. I am humbled. Also, thank you so much for this opportunity. This site you created is incredible + I am really looking forward to being a part of it.

L: I hate to ask the age-old question… but let’s face it, people want to know. What was it like when you found out you were having triplets? How did Lydia react to the news?

R: I was in shock. John was in shock. Lydia jumped for joy. When we went to the first ultrasound + the tech told us how many babies there were, my husband’s face went white + he almost passed out. He had to leave the room to compose himself + when he came back in, less than a minute later, I cried. Not because I wasn’t happy, I was, but because there were so many things to worry about. The pregnancy, my health, their health, it felt unfair to Lydia, I didn’t know how in the world I would be able to care for 3 infants at once, etc… It took me a long time to actually process the news; in fact I think I was in shock until I was admitted to the hospital at 21 weeks. My husband, on the other hand, wasn’t in shock for very long, he bounced back quickly + became my rock of support throughout the pregnancy. When we finally told Lydia, she was so excited that she danced around the living room. Literally.

L: Did you have a long period of being on bedrest with your triplet pregnancy? Do you have any advice for pregnant moms who are dealing with that now?

R: I did. Around 16 weeks I was put on modified bed rest at home. I was still able to go about my daily life somewhat normally. I had to work from home, I couldn’t do housework + I spent a lot of time on the couch; but otherwise it was far easier than the 8 weeks of complete hospital bed rest from 21 weeks through the triplets’ birth. That was difficult, very difficult. The only real advice I have is to keep yourself busy. Dig deep; draw on your reserves, because although it is hard, you can do it. And I promise that it is worth it…all of the pain, discomfort, loneliness, isolation, frustration; everything is worth it when you see those babies. As soon as I saw my little ones’ tiny little bodies, it all melted away + I knew I would have done it for another 11 weeks if I could have.

L: I know your family had a long and trying NICU experience. Is there anything that you know now, that would have made it any easier back when you were going through it?

R: Despite the fact that the NICU is the last place I wanted to see my little ones, we actually had a very good experience while the babies were there. The Dr’s, nurses, the entire staff were incredibly skilled + thorough, just very knowledgeable. They were so supportive + they were great at keeping us informed + involved. Our first 2 weeks were the roughest, with Cameron’s brain bleed, but once we got over those initial 2 weeks, things took the typical steps forward. It was rough, not having the little ones at home, but they were exactly where they needed to be. No longer growing in my womb, they were growing in an external womb. My husband often told me that though their early arrival was frightening, we were lucky to be able to watch them grow + develop; because, really, no matter what we wouldn’t have been able to welcome them home until they were close to 40 weeks. Even though I had moments at home where I broke down, each time I stepped into the NICU I remained positive + upbeat. I believe that babies can sense the feelings in their mothers + I didn’t want them to feel any negativity at all. I wanted them to focus solely on healing, so that they could come home. The only thing that I would do differently, now that I look back, is to have more completely documented their time there in photos + videos, even in words. While we were in it, I didn’t want to remember it at all, but now I wish I had more to show them someday. I wish I had more to reflect on some days. I remember a lot of it, quite vividly; but time fades the majority of our experiences.

L: From reading your blog over the last year, it’s obvious your kids are very active and very bright! How do you ensure that you keep them stimulated and learning on a daily basis?

R: I have no idea. I am going to credit John’s genes for their brains + their big sister for her enthusiasm for their stimulation. I feel like I don’t do enough to keep them stimulated +learning. They are endlessly curious, so I let them explore + I answer their questions. Other than that, I don’t feel like I do much.

L: Is it hard finding time to get one-on-one time with your kids? How do you make that happen?

R: Since I am with them alone, the majority of our days, it is very difficult to find one on one time with any of my children. I just try to snag the moments when they happen. If someone needs a cuddle or wakes up earlier, we will spend some one on one time together. Lydia + I often go to church together on Sundays + then run errands; otherwise, our together time is at night after the little ones are snoozing.

L: What do you think is the hardest thing/biggest concern about having multiples?

R: Finding one on one time with each of them ranks right up there as a top concern, it is so hard to find time to snuggle everyone throughout the day + I don’t read to them nearly as much as I would like because up until very recently they hated to share my lap. I only hope that the {self} perceived lack of time with me enables them to be independent rather than being detrimental to their growth. Also, I think one of the biggest challenges that happens with parenting multiples, is that you have three little ones going through the same phases at the same time. You would think it would be easier, but it really isn’t. I am dealing with 3 different personalities + 3 different ways of doing things, so I have to constantly adjust. I try to keep uniformity, but they don’t learn the same way so each lesson has to be taught 3 different ways, multiple times each day. It is exhausting.

L: Do you ever get tired of all the comments from strangers?

R: I used to find them endlessly tiring, but now I don’t mind them nearly as much. I think part of it was the fear that the commenters would want to touch them + since they were so premature I was terrified that they would get sick + end up back in the hospital. Now that they are bigger + older, I don’t worry as much when we are out, which I think allows me some freedom to entertain the comments. What does really bother me is when people take pictures just because they have to {really, this has happened} or when they just stop + stare as if my trio are a little exhibition at a zoo. Can you imagine how that would feel?

L:I love seeing the pictures and videos on your blog of the babies with Lydia- it’s obvious how much they love her! What’s your favorite thing to do as a family?

R: They do adore her; more than anyone else in the world. We love to cook, even the little ones, so preparing + enjoying a meal together is always a treat. We also love to take walks + play outside in the back yard. We used to do family game night a few times a week with Lydia, but with all of her sports we haven’t had much time to recently. The times we have taken everyone out have been a lot of fun as well, but as much as we all like to be on the go, when we are together we mostly we like to be close to home.

L: What is your favorite thing about having multiples?

R: Their bond is incredible; there is just something intangible between them that I will never understand. I feel incredibly blessed to be able to witness it.

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Thank you, Rachael, for sharing your thoughts and experiences with us!
Be sure to stop by Rachael’s blog today and leave her some thoughts of your own!

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31 comments

  1. Kate @ BunchaBlueEyedMonkeys

    Great interview! Going to visit Rachael’s blog now :o)

  2. My mom would love that brag book!

    Thanks for introducing us to all of these families!

  3. Oh Rachael is one of my favorite girls. So glad she is getting her special day.

  4. happy day to me…thanks lani 🙂

  5. Yeah! Rach! Already a fan and am so glad others get to know her better now too!

  6. Loved the interview I also follow her blog.

  7. great interview!

    I’m a follower (stalker?)

  8. i am a mom of two sets of twins…and we are expecting our first grandbaby june 2! so this is a perfect giveaway for me.
    im a follower too!

  9. Oh I already LOVE, LOVE, LOVE Rachael and her family, but wanted to tell all of you to follow her blog. You will be touched, inspired, encouraged and amazed! Love ya Rachael! Thanks Lani for featuring a fellow MoM!

  10. I found her blog through another friend. Her photography is already inspiring me!

    I am already a follower.

  11. Thanks for sharing with us all, Rachael!

    I love the giveaway!
    – I am leaving a comment! 🙂
    – I’m a follower! 🙂
    – I’ll blog about it today!

    Thanks so much!

  12. Yay for featuring Rachael! And you’re right – her pictures make me want to go buy a newer, better camera!

  13. Great interview! Cute brag book!

  14. My mother in law would love that!! what a gerat gift:)I follow too:)dont have nor know how to tweet. haha

  15. Very cute brag book!

    Congrats, Rachael, on the feature. Great blog!

  16. My Mom would love that!

  17. wonderful interview! she hit the nail on the head about being afraid people would want to touch them. I was admittedly rude to people when they would start asking questions at first. I’m not as bad now that my twins are two, but it does still bother me when they ask me a million questions. It’s the whole
    “Are they twins?”
    Yes.
    “Are they identical?”
    No.
    “Are they Natural?”
    ….dead silence…
    “You know…I mean are they real twins”
    …dead silence…
    Do you mean did I use fertility treatments? No, I didn’t.
    “I bet your hands are full”
    Not as full as my heart.
    “I’m glad it’s you and not me!”
    So are they.

  18. another great interview. Thanks for sharing.
    Cute brag books to0 – great giveaways.

  19. Happy Tuesday Ladies!

    So glad you featured Rachael! One of my favorite bloggers 🙂

  20. Rachael is one of my favorite bloggers. She inspires me with her posts. Glad to see her here!

  21. I just recently came across her blog and started following, I think she's how I found out about this site!

    Grammy would love that brag book, thanks for the chance to win!

    Hugs & Blessings!

    I follow here too!

  22. Love it, love it, love it!
    angie.langbecker@hotmail.com

  23. Great interview! Thanks for posting it!

  24. Great interview! I enjoy following this blog a lot!

  25. You already know I’m a follower, and I love that photo book! It would make a perfect Mother’s Day present for one of the boys’ Grandmothers!

  26. Christa @ Quintooples

    Great intervier Rachael!

  27. What a great interview!!! It’s so comforting to know other moms of multiples have the same concern about the lack of one-on-one time!!

  28. Hey! I’m late to the party but I had to say congrats to Rachael for the feature! YAY!

    She was a rock to me during my pregnancy, too. She actually came to see me in the hospital which was the first time we met. I’m thankful for her friendship and for that gorgeous family of hers.

  29. Rachael is a DOLL….I love her too! Great to get to learn more about her. 🙂 Thanks for helping us do just that!

  30. Hi Rachael, so glad to see you were featured.

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