Multiples and More Question of the Week: Encouraging Individuality

Every parent of multiples will face the inevitable challenge of trying to ensure that their kids grow up with a healthy sense of self, free from the typical stereotypes ( “the smart one”, “the shy one”, etc). As a mom of young triplets, I can already see that it can sometimes be a a daunting task to find time to encourage individuality, when there are days when it’s all I can do to keep my kids fed, clothed, and clean! Please share your tips and tricks with us today, on what works for your family when it comes to encouraging individuality!
This week’s question of the week is:

How do you encourage your multiples to develop and maintain their own individual identities?

  • Do you plan to, or already separate them in school?
  • Do you encourage your kids to pursue separate interests, or try to keep them in the same activities?
  • What are your feelings on dressing multiples alike? Coordinating names?
  • If your kids are older, do they still like to, or choose to dress alike?
  • What specific things do you do to help encourage your children’s individuality?

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  1. In my personal experience as being a twin, I don't think much needs to be done for multiples to develop their own personality. My sister and I dressed alike through 4th grade, were in the same activities, same classes, had the same friends, were in the same classrooms, but yet developed very independently! I plan on raising my twin girls the same way! When they are older, if they choose to do the same or different activities, dress the same or different, etc., then I will support their decisions! Great Topic!!

  2. As the mom of one year old identical girls, I am looking forward to reading all the answers on this one! Great question!!

  3. I'm with Kristi – My twins are NOTHING alike. We dress them the same, feed them the same, same toys, etc, etc – but my husband and I say the only thing they have in common is a birthday! They are only 2 now, it will definitely be interesting to see how things change when they get older. I'm looking forward to reading the answers on this one too!

  4. I love this question… I out my kids in the same class for preschool, but just talked with the teacher the other day and confirmed they will be in seperate classes for 1st grade… Then out of the blue my daughter, who we thought always wanted to be in her own class; said she wants to be in the same class again…

    I think it's a very specialized question, and has to be answered based soely on each set of multiples; it will be interesting to see the answers!

  5. While alot is the same in our day due to our schedule and activities I think how we interact with our kiddos is different. Some of that is based on their needs, but a lot of it is based on their personalities and what they like or don't like. We are working on one-on-one dates out with one parent now that they are older.

    This question is really important as we will be homeschooling our trio. That's my biggest concern about homeschooling is allowing them to be individuals. But it's also exciting because we will have the time to focus on their own interests. Lots to think about.

  6. Our school district does not allow twins to be in the same class beyond preschool through the elementary years. We have asked, even though my twins girls are just 18 months. (I guess it's because my husband is a teacher in the district)
    As for names, we gave them nicknames so that they both ended in "ie" but when they get older and decide they'd prefer not to (kind of) rhyme, that option is open. I don't often dress them in matching outfits, but it's more for my sake; it's easier to tell them apart.

  7. I'm one of the few (it seems) who does NOT dress them alike. I just think they are individuals, so I want to treat them as such and dress them differently. Plus, they have double the wardrobe!

  8. My boys are only 14 months old right now but they definetely have separate and distinct personality traits. We were really set against dressing them the same even before we had them, but now I sometimes dress them the same cause I think it's cute.
    We will definetely encourage them to pursue whatever interests them as they get older, but if they like the same things that's fine.

  9. Twincerely,Olga

    I think its a little easier for me since i have B/G twins!!They are definitely very different!!

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