I met the person that would become my best friend, husband and a great daddy around Halloween of 1999, and would have NEVER imagined at that time we would become husband and wife.
Jim had just started working for the same state agency that I worked for. He was busy studying for his new position so I quickly gave him a bag of Halloween Candy and wished him a very Happy Halloween….he did not say anything. I was shocked because most people as least say thank you or look up…but not him. Later that day when our boss asked me what I thought of the “new guy” I told him that he appeared to be a little stuck-up. The boss said, “Great, you are going to train him!!”
I started training him and found out that he was a great guy, easy to talk too and just a really, really nice person. I told one of my colleagues that I needed to meet someone like Jim who was just nice. I did not say I wanted to date Jim; or that I liked him.; Just that meeting someone like him would be a nice change from some of my other dating adventures. My colleague quickly told me, he has a girlfriend and I think they are serious.
Since he had a girlfriend and I had just gotten out of a rough relationship so we were just work friends. That got along really well. One day I had stopped by his office in the small town of Soda Springs, Idaho to drop off some papers and other supplies. His office door was closed so I just left them with the Secretaries and headed out. When I got back to my office there was an email from him telling me that I was very stuck-up because I had not even said, “hi”!! Little did he know that I was going to do everything in my power to show him how “un-stuck” up I was. So when I would be in the Soda Springs area I would make it a point to stop in and say hi or take a treat just so he could see that I was NOT stuck-up!!
In May of 2000, I had gotten up early and had arrived in Soda Springs too attend a health fair and offer information about a variety of health issues related to infants and children. He arrived about an hour later and was right next to me at the health fair. He had a couple large piles of paper that needed to be folded into brochures so I just started helping him fold them and as the day went on we found that we had a lot in common. He no longer had a girlfriend, but I was seeing someone in Chicago and we were just seeing how things went. During the time I was dating the gentleman in Chicago I kept asking my mom, “How will I Know when I find the Right One?” She told me, “Wendi it will be like putting a glove on..it will be a perfect fit.”He had never been fly fishing so I told him that he should come along with my family the next weekend and I would help him learn to fly fish. As I left that day and headed back to our main office I can honestly say that I wanted to be his friend and just enjoy time together because he was a really nice guy. I would never in my “wildest dreams” imagine that Jim and I would become anything more than just friends. Once again when I arrived at the office and checked my email he had sent be an email with a heart on it and a message that said, “you are a sweetheart”!!
We got together the following weekend and he a great time talking with my family, laughing and just hanging out. Over Memorial Day in 2000 after going on a hike and me forgetting the water because he and I had stayed up all night talking by the camp fire…he asked me if he could kiss me and that was the beginning of a friendship that grew into love!! Throughout the next few months we NEVER called it dating we just spent all of our spare time together.
Around work we never told anyone but one night My boss came up to me as he was leaving and said, “Wendi..Jim is a great guy and you are great lady. Jim is the best guy you have ever dated and I can see you really care about him and he really cares about you”. When we announced our engagement everyone at work was SUPER excited!!!
We got engaged in August but waited to get married until April 28, 2001 because I wanted to finish my Master’s Degree and I had always dreamed of a wedding in the Spring. Our wedding day was one of the BEST DAY’S of my life!! My Dad told me as I was holding his arm waiting our turn to walk down the aisle, “the first time he saw Jim and I together that he was going to be the one I would marry, he just knew.”I thought I knew what love was that day..but I can honestly say that I love him more today than I did the day I married him. During the time I was dating the gentleman in Chicago I kept asking my mom, “How will I Know when I find the Right One?” She told me, “Wendi it will be like putting a glove on..it will be a perfect fit. It will also be someone who you can see with you when hard things occur, sickness, death etc.” My mom was absolutely correct!! As life has thrown twists, curves, happiness and sadness I feel truly blessed that I married my best friend!!
I also always tell people….”NEVER CALL SOMEONE STUCK UP….BECAUSE YOU MIGHT end up Marrying them!!!!
During the time I was dating the gentleman in Chicago I kept asking my mom, “How will I Know when I find the Right One?” She told me, “Wendi it will be like putting a glove on..it will be a perfect fit. It will also be someone who you can see with you when hard things occur, sickness, death etc.” My mom was absolutely correct when it is right it just fit’s..does it mean there are never challenges NO! But it is the person you want beside you.