The featured blogger this week is Erin of The Munchkins! Erin is the proud MoM of 4 year old girls, Caden and Delaney. Erin’s girls are beyond adorable, and her weekly menu plans are fabulous if you are in need of dinner ideas.
You chose to be a single mother, can you tell us a little bit about how you came to that decision and what the process was like?
I dated all the wrong guys in my 20’s and early 30’s. If there was a guy with commitment issues, I dated him. As I got older, it became harder and harder to even meet guys. It didn’t help that I traveled a ton for work. I tried online dating and went on a million first dates, but never met anyone I clicked with. When I started a 7 month project in Los Angeles, the guy I’d been on a few dates with immediately dumped me. I had a lot of time to think on the long plane rides and started doing the math. Even if I met someone once my project finished, by the time we dated, got engaged, and were married for a while, who knew when I would actually have kids. So I took matters into my own hands. Once I started rolling the idea of using a sperm donor around, I realized that it was very much something that I could do, and wanted to do. I have a great stable job, family nearby, and I owned a house. I’ve never been someone to wait around for a man to do what I want to do, why should having kids be any different? I spent a year getting my financial house in order, paid everything off that I could and stockpiled an emergency fund. As a single mom, it was very important to me to be able to do this financially as well as emotionally. Once I told my family what I wanted to do, the ball started rolling and I realized this was the path I was meant to travel.
Were you surprised to discover you were having twins?
Not really. Because I was using donor sperm, my ttc was all very timed and scientific. When I didn’t get pregnant after the first few months, we moved to fertility drugs. At that point, I knew multiples were likely in my future. I was doing this as a single mom, why wouldn’t I have twins just to make it a little more difficult? In the end I did IVF and transferred two embryos. The doctor gave me an 85% chance of becoming pregnant. When I had an early u/s I kind of expected to see two in there, but was very surprised to learn I was pregnant with identical twins.
I know that I was stressed out the first few months from sleep deprivation and I had someone to help me, how did you handle the first few months?
It’s odd, but I actually look back fondly on those first few months! I’m a very organized, routine based person, so I had the girls eating every three hours around the clock. They were fairly good sleepers, but even if they woke up and cried, I could fall asleep within seconds of my head hitting the pillow again. My dad came up twice a week to help out in the evenings and with overnight feedings which was huge. I think it also helped that I had super low expectations of those first months, and a very comfy rocking chair that we could all sleep in.
I love your weekly menu plans, what are some of your girls favorite meals?
Roast chicken by far! My girls gobble it up. I love it because it’s such an easy, flavorful meal, plus it gives us leftovers all week.
What are some of your favorite activities to do as a family?
Lately we’ve been doing a ton of puzzles. The girls love them, and now that they’re older we’ve gotten some harder puzzles that are fun for me too. As fun as puzzles are, we’re all very much looking forward to warm weather again. My parents have a lake place that is possibly my girls favorite place in the world to be. They love swimming in the pool and riding around on the golf cart.
What questions do you have for the other families in the community?
My girls are fairly good eaters, but I cannot seem to get them to broaden their vegetable horizons. Any awesome recipes out there so they’ll eat something besides corn?
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